A Time to Speak

A month ago I published a piece called A Time to Be Silent. I wrote this both as a personal challenge and as inspiration for my fellow talkers. After the blog post went live, a reader commented, “It must be nice being so confident in speaking,” even if to a fault.

Let’s take a moment to swing the pendulum to the other extreme, to those who choose to remain silent. Too silent. They are our friends and family who prefer to listen rather than speak. When asked for their input, they certainly offer their thoughts, but not all of their thoughts, at least not in one sitting.

Do not confuse listeners with introverts. I’ve met several introverts who can talk circles around me. However, they are drained from the encounter. Introverts recharge and feel alive when they are alone or are in the company of only a few close companions. To my silent friends, please know that we talkers would love to hear you speak up.

You are smart. You are funny. Your thoughts are coveted. Here are three reasons I believe it’s time for you to speak up.

• Fewer words yield more impact. You choose your words carefully and offer insight at the most critical times. Your keen observation skills connect with the big picture, and the moments you engage can truly bring clarity to chaos. Because we don’t often hear your voice, you easily capture attention with your words. Try giving unsolicited input into a group decision this week. Take note to the value placed on your words. Every time you extend yourself, you’ll find this interaction a bit easier.

• Silence is agreement. How often have you listened to a friend while nodding your head? You are simply acknowledging that you are listening, only to later hear your friend say, “She agrees with me completely!” Silence can easily be mistaken as alignment or agreement. Sharing your opinions early on helps avoid being unintentionally misrepresented later.

• You have need. The very act of listening is selfless. I admire those who are naturally inclined to give of themselves in this way. My quietest friends are truly some of the most selfless people I’ve ever met. I’m not saying talkers are selfish, but there is something special about natural-born listeners. But please, when you are in need, speak up! Life is meant to be a journey traveled together, in community. When you have need, say something. We talkers will be there to help. So will everyone else.

Talkers are most comfortable when speaking. Listeners are most comfortable when silent. Yet, communication should always be dialogue, not monologue. To be most effective, we should be skilled at both. For my non-talking friends, take time to speak today. We’re listening.

Question: Are you hesitant to speak up? If so, what do you believe is keeping you silent? Comment below and help others to grow.

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